I am not a huge fan of brown suits generally. Something about them just makes me think they look too rural or informal. This suit, however, is an exception.
I love the contrast of the stripes of the jacket and the checks of the vest. This is a great example of how playing with complimentary patterns can really add an eye-catching element to your standard suit. Here, the colors are the same but the variation in the pattern arrangement gives the outfit a sense of depth and vitality.
Also, check out the bowtie/ascot/scarf. Little twists like this can really pull an outfit together. Taking something like a scarf or handkerchief and tying it around your neck as you would a bowtie gives a brazen edge to an otherwise put-together look.
Lastly, make sure to slick back your hair and look super serious and you will OWN that brown suit.
Showing posts with label professional lesbian. Show all posts
Showing posts with label professional lesbian. Show all posts
Friday, May 4, 2012
Wednesday, May 2, 2012
Asked & Answered: Summer Work Style
Reader North writes:
Hot weather gives most people an excuse to relax into an informal wardrobe of shorts, tees, and sandals. Even some of our more feminine friends from the professional real can get away with short sleeves and breezy skirts in the summer. But you are not the average person - you are a Lezsquire. So although it may be 100 degrees outside, it's important that you still maintain a professional appearance. Follow these tips to keep it classy through the heatwaves.
Hold these tips in mind and you'll make keeping your cool at work look effortless (even while you are smoldering with hot hot style).
"Want to do something on summer clothes for queers? I have a hell of a
time finding anything even approximately work appropriate when it's 100
degrees."
Hot weather gives most people an excuse to relax into an informal wardrobe of shorts, tees, and sandals. Even some of our more feminine friends from the professional real can get away with short sleeves and breezy skirts in the summer. But you are not the average person - you are a Lezsquire. So although it may be 100 degrees outside, it's important that you still maintain a professional appearance. Follow these tips to keep it classy through the heatwaves.
- Lighten your fabrics. This applies to both the color and the weave. Darker colors absorb light and make you hotter (in a bad way), faster. Lighter colors, on the other hand, reflect light and keep you cool. So go with a lighter color scheme - whites, light greys, and more pale colors (yellow, blue, pink, green, etc). As far as fabric, ditch denser fabrics such as wool, pinpoint oxfords, or (shudder) polyester blends and go with natural, breathable, and light fabrics such as linen, silk, and cotton.
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| Linen Perfect Shirt by J.Crew |
- Ditch the suit? As mentioned above, wardrobes tend to get more informal in the summer. Does this mean that you can ditch your suit? Well... probably not. It will depend on your work environment. A good trick is to take cues from what your (more fashionable) co-workers and bosses are doing. One option is to ditch the jacket altogether and don a vest and matching slacks instead. Still professional yet breezier than a suit. I personally would feel uncomfortable without a suit at work - but there is a compromise! Bring your suit jacket draped over your arm. You can hang it in the office in the event that you need it, and stay coolly jacket-free in the meantime.
- Summer Suits. Again, try to go with breathable cotton or linen suits and avoid wool. An unlined suit (one that ditches the inner layer of fabric completely) or one that is half-lined is also a good option. Though you may need to wear a dark suit for more formal occasions, for everyday wear try a light grey, kahki, or cream colored suit or (if you're daring) white or seersucker.
- Under the suit. If you are wearing a suit, there are a few tricks you can do to keep cool as well. There are a number of short-sleeved or sleeveless shirts that look like your average button down when worn with a jacket. No one will be the wiser and there will be one less layer of fabric between your arms and breezy freedom. Also, as a woman (not required to wear a necktie), you can get away with a number of other sleeveless or short-sleeved, or tank-like (yet still professional) tops under your jacket, so use this to your advantage!
- Summer footwear. The sockless look has been in in recent years, and if you're looking to pull it off (again, for those "less formal" workdays), make sure you use some shoe powder in them or wear "invisible socks" to keep them dry and clean. If you're wearing socks, again, go for naturally breathable fabrics like cotton or silk. Avoid polyester blends at all costs. Italian-style loafers or dress shies are also a good summer choice and made from lighter and softer leather than most of their counterparts. I do not advocate sandals, ever.
- Tip of the hat. If you're going to be outdoors (even if it's just walking to your office from your car), now is the ideal time to bust out that sweet panama hat you have been looking for an excuse to wear.
- Shades. When the sun is beating down on you, don't forget your eyes' health. Sunglasses are a very personal thing, so pick out a pair unique to you. If you're struggling to find the right fit, Ray Ban Clubmasters or some squared-off aviators are a good place to start.
Hold these tips in mind and you'll make keeping your cool at work look effortless (even while you are smoldering with hot hot style).
Tuesday, April 24, 2012
Pick of the Day: Sole Survivor Leather Briefcase
Every working Lezsquire needs a good briefcase.
And you'll be hard pressed to find a more awesome briefcase than Style No. 1005 from Sole Survivor Leather.
Let's face it: after law school (or once you otherwise enter the professional world), a backpack will no longer cut it. Your supervisors, clients, and co-workers expect you to look put-together and adult. So being the young'un who marches into work with knapsack slung over your shoulders (no matter how cool it may be...) is a big mistake.
Those of us with more masculine taste in style get a hard rap when it comes to bags. Feminine women have a plethora of purses and totes to choose from. It's a bit tougher finding something that suits those erring toward the other side of the gender spectrum.
Reminiscent of the harness belt, this sole survivor briefcase has striking good looks, classic styling, and a bit of an edge (hello "tongue" clasps). The fixtures are solid brass, so you know it's built to last. I think this is the perfect type of briefcase for the working queer who is going for professional respect while still remaining style conscious. At $350, this bag is an investment but quite a steal compared to some of those designer purses our more femmey friends may tote. And my bet is that it will last a lifetime and then some.
And you'll be hard pressed to find a more awesome briefcase than Style No. 1005 from Sole Survivor Leather.
Let's face it: after law school (or once you otherwise enter the professional world), a backpack will no longer cut it. Your supervisors, clients, and co-workers expect you to look put-together and adult. So being the young'un who marches into work with knapsack slung over your shoulders (no matter how cool it may be...) is a big mistake.
Those of us with more masculine taste in style get a hard rap when it comes to bags. Feminine women have a plethora of purses and totes to choose from. It's a bit tougher finding something that suits those erring toward the other side of the gender spectrum.
Reminiscent of the harness belt, this sole survivor briefcase has striking good looks, classic styling, and a bit of an edge (hello "tongue" clasps). The fixtures are solid brass, so you know it's built to last. I think this is the perfect type of briefcase for the working queer who is going for professional respect while still remaining style conscious. At $350, this bag is an investment but quite a steal compared to some of those designer purses our more femmey friends may tote. And my bet is that it will last a lifetime and then some.
Monday, April 23, 2012
Look of the Day: LA Style
Lezsquire readers! I am happy to report that I am back from my extended business trip to Ohio. Although some excitingly gay events coincidentally happened while I was in town, I have to say... damn, it's good to be back.
(And before you ask regarding my trip: No, I sadly did not see one fashionable outfit [besides those in the mirror] the entire month I was away. Better luck next time.)
In honor of my triumphant return, here is a slice of quintessential LA lesbian style for you.
Note the artfully slicked back, sun-kissed hair, dark aviators, and double breasted black suit. The perfect look for effortlessly doing justice on the idyllic palm-lined streets of LA.
(And before you ask regarding my trip: No, I sadly did not see one fashionable outfit [besides those in the mirror] the entire month I was away. Better luck next time.)
In honor of my triumphant return, here is a slice of quintessential LA lesbian style for you.
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Monday, April 16, 2012
Suits Me: Power Dyke Couple
What's the only thing better than a hot power lesbian?
TWO hot power lesbians!
Observe:
I'm really loving this picture for several reasons.
Androgyny. Nothing gets me like androgyny. The ladies here are rocking their looks with masculine confidence and feminine grace. The poses (wide legged stance, jaunty hips and shoulders, squared jaws) give every indication of assertiveness while subtle cues (the tilt of the head, grasping of hair) belie a tender vulnerability. The perfect combination.
White suit. This is an excellent example of pulling off the white suit.
Vest & Oxford. A great way to look professional but not too uptight. After (or during) a hard day of work, it's okay to take your jacket off, roll up the sleeves, and keep on being awesome.
The Hair. Here is an excellent example of how one can still have "longer" hair and pull off a masculine look. The standing figure has more meticulously groomed locks while the seated figure has a more free and unkempt style. Both look great.
I can't get enough of the hot lesbian power couple. So use the comments to tell me about any such experiences!
TWO hot power lesbians!
Observe:
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Androgyny. Nothing gets me like androgyny. The ladies here are rocking their looks with masculine confidence and feminine grace. The poses (wide legged stance, jaunty hips and shoulders, squared jaws) give every indication of assertiveness while subtle cues (the tilt of the head, grasping of hair) belie a tender vulnerability. The perfect combination.
White suit. This is an excellent example of pulling off the white suit.
Vest & Oxford. A great way to look professional but not too uptight. After (or during) a hard day of work, it's okay to take your jacket off, roll up the sleeves, and keep on being awesome.
The Hair. Here is an excellent example of how one can still have "longer" hair and pull off a masculine look. The standing figure has more meticulously groomed locks while the seated figure has a more free and unkempt style. Both look great.
I can't get enough of the hot lesbian power couple. So use the comments to tell me about any such experiences!
Wednesday, April 11, 2012
Look of the Day: Go-to-Hell Pants
The go-to-hell pant is back envogue, and Lezsquire couldn't be happier. I've always harbored a little not-so-secret love for prep style ever since I first laid hands on a copy of The Official Preppy Handbook as a young Lez. Aptly named, the go-to-hell pant is a fashion conundrum. The button-downed prepster's Ivy League attempt to bring a bit of punk rock abandon into their lives.
Dandy and white suit wearer Tom Wolf is credited with first coining the phrase in an article for for Esquire about the elite preps vacationing at Martha's Vinetard. He writes:
The above look is a great example of how to pull off the go-to-hell look. Things to note:
Dandy and white suit wearer Tom Wolf is credited with first coining the phrase in an article for for Esquire about the elite preps vacationing at Martha's Vinetard. He writes:
The jackets were mostly navy blazers, and the ties were mostly striped ties or ties with little jacquard emblems on them, but the pants had a go-to-hell air: checks and plaids of the loudest possible sort, madras plaids, yellow-on-orange windowpane checks, crazy-quilt plaids, giant houndstooth checks, or else they were a solid airmail red or taxi yellow or some other implausible go-to-hell color. They finished that off with loafers and white crew socks or no socks at all. The pants were their note of Haitian abandon… at the same time the jackets and ties showed they had not forgotten for a moment where the power came from.
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- Subdued accompaniments. The most important part of pulling off the "go-to-hell" look well is to not go over the top, or you'll just look like a clown. This means going for an overall "conservative" look with one shocking element. Here, note that the classic look of the sweater, button-down, shoes, belt, and watch really allow the pants to shine.
- Get the color or pattern right. It's called "go-to-hell" for a reason. Now is not the time to be shy. Go with the boldest and most clashing color or pattern possible. Think yellow, salmon, red, or seafoam for solids and big bold plaids for patterns. If you go embroidered pattern route (tiny sailboats, flamingos, or the like), make sure it's something representative of your personality.
- Boat Shoes. Sperrys are a prepster essential, so if you're planning on pulling off the go-to-hell look anywhere near an ocean, make sure to grab a pair.
- Fun socks. Also envogue nowadays. Just 'cause it's too cold to go sockless doesn't mean you can't have fun "down there". Spice up your Sperrys with some fun patterened or striped socks.
Tuesday, April 10, 2012
Suits Me: More Milla Jovovich
If you haven't noticed already, I think Milla Jovovich has (or had, circa the 1990s) the perfect hot lesbian look.
Check out that haphazardly slicked back mane. Professional with an edge. In addition to the spectacular lesbian hair, Milla is rocking one excellent grey suit. This lighter shade of grey is particularly great for springtime. Pop the collar a little. Because you're a badass.
But the best part is the gaze. Threatening? Playful? Dismissive? Enticing? Aggressive? Challenging? All of the above? Yes please.
The hot lesbian look is all about attitude.
(And with that kind of attitude, who needs a shirt?)
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But the best part is the gaze. Threatening? Playful? Dismissive? Enticing? Aggressive? Challenging? All of the above? Yes please.
The hot lesbian look is all about attitude.
(And with that kind of attitude, who needs a shirt?)
Sunday, April 8, 2012
Deal Alert: Land's End Riding Jacket
There have been rumors around the fashion community that Land's End is the "poor man's J. Crew". Depending on who you talk to, this could be a good thing or a thinly-veiled jibe. Well, Lezsquire is a blog for the young professional. Like many of my readers, I have student loans to repay, bills to take care of, and other things to save up for. So although I tend to feature a lot of nice, and consequentially pricey, items on my blog, I recognize that most of us can't always have everything we want. Therefore, although I appreciate good quality, I also appreciate a good deal. This Land's End riding blazer appears to be both.
This gentlemanly riding jacket is a herringbone wool blend and comes fully lined. It features a fashionable ticket pocket and playful yet sophisticated notch collar. The description says it has a little extra length, which is great because there's few things that peeve me more than a jacket that's not long enough (something that has become a veritable plague in modern women's fashion). It also says it's "great for times when you don't feel like carrying a purse". I.e., when you are a dyke. The best part? It's on sale for only $99.97.
Since I already made a big blazer purchase this weekend (more on that soon), I don't see this jacket in my future (also, I tend to be more of a size 4 nowadays and the smallest they have is a 6). But, some dapper young reader out there needs to get this!!! It's just too awesome to pass up. And when you do, dyke it up and send in the pictures so I can feature your fabulousness on Lezsquire.
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| Land's End Riding Blazer |
Since I already made a big blazer purchase this weekend (more on that soon), I don't see this jacket in my future (also, I tend to be more of a size 4 nowadays and the smallest they have is a 6). But, some dapper young reader out there needs to get this!!! It's just too awesome to pass up. And when you do, dyke it up and send in the pictures so I can feature your fabulousness on Lezsquire.
Friday, April 6, 2012
Formal Friday: Cufflinks with French Cuffs
As you might recall, I do not remember the first time I saw a woman wearing a suit.
I do, however, remember the first time I saw a woman wearing cufflinks.
It was mind-blowing. Intimidating, sexy, and sophisticated all at once. The essence of masculine power worn as a token on a female body. I was wrecked.
The essential companion to the cufflink is the french cuff shirt. The french cuff/cufflink combination is dressy. It's for select occasions. Unless you've already made your first million, it's not your everyday wear. It's for those select times when you need to be at the height of your power.
And god... when that power is harnessed. The things you can do with it.
I do, however, remember the first time I saw a woman wearing cufflinks.
It was mind-blowing. Intimidating, sexy, and sophisticated all at once. The essence of masculine power worn as a token on a female body. I was wrecked.
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And god... when that power is harnessed. The things you can do with it.
Thursday, April 5, 2012
Pic of the Day: Youthful Professional
Not every professional occasion calls for an all-out matching 3 piece suit. As a young professional, you can still have some fun with mixing and matching your business wardrobe while avoiding the dreaded label "business casual".
Khakis and a nontraditional belt can be paired with a subdued gray or navy blazer and button-down for a sophisticated yet youthful look for springtime. Put on a nice watch and your favorite pocket square, and you're good to go!
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Wednesday, April 4, 2012
Packing for Business Travel 101
I have been traveling on business lately. So since it's been on my mind, today's post contains tips for what the lesbian professional should pack for business travel. These recommendations will assume that 1) you will be away for more than a few days, and 2) that you will be needing to wear "business attire" during at least part of your trip.
1. Be aware of your destination. This seems like a no-brainer, but there have been several times that I (as a Californian) have failed to realize how cold other parts of the world can get at varying times of year. Does your destination have tropical rainstorms in the summer? Tornadoes in the spring? High liklihood of a blizzard? Check the weather predictions for your destination and do a little research into it's quirks. Then think of the key items you will need for this weather - coats, umbrellas, etc. Keep in mind that cold weather clothes are bulkier and will require more packing room.
2. Build your wardrobe bottom-up. And by bottom-up, I mean first determine what color of shoes you will be bringing. Shoes take up a lot of space, so if you're traveling for a week or less you should consider bringing only one pair of business shoes. Black and brown are the business traditionals (black is typically seen as more professional), so pick one of the two. (And for god's sake, don't wear those horrible bulky slip-on "business travel shoes". Having to take 2 additional seconds to untie your shoes at TSA won't kill you.) Ok, picked your shoe color? Then throw in a matching belt. Now choose a classic suit that goes with it. You get the idea.
3. Wear bulkier items on the plane. Wearing bulkier items on the plane will both save you packing space and protect you from the extreme temperatures of air travel. Consider wearing bigger sweaters and other items on the plane. Wearing one of your suit jackets or blazers on the plan will better protect it from wrinkles than leaving it in the bag.
4. Versatility is key. Packing space is a pain and airline baggage charges are insane nowadays. So it's important to think of outfits that will be versatile. You'll have to come to terms with the fact that due to limited space for accessories and different wardrobe pieces in your luggage, you will probably not be the height of fashion during the duration of your business travel. Nonetheless, you can still build a basic, sharp and professional wardrobe for your trip. While I am not crazy about the exact outfits, think of the below picture as a guide. As you can see, the outfits all build off of the same scheme of a dark suit, black shoes/belt, and a couple of button-down shirts and sweaters worn in different combinations. You could technically only have one or two basic suits or blazers for a week or longer, but by mixing and matching smaller pieces you can create vastly different looks. Bring a couple of different colored button-downs, then try layering a vest or sweater in different combinations on different days. On more casual days, you can ditch the suit jacket and go with some slacks and a sweater or one of your more casual button-downs.
5. Bring some key accessories. There are several smaller accessories that are small and easy to pick that can spice up your basic business wardrobe and be mixed and matched with the pieces discussed above. Think about bringing a few small accessories like pocket squares, ties and tie clips, patterned socks, sunglasses, scarfs, or gloves.
6. Consider your clothing's comfort, too. Suits should be kept in a garment bag and packed properly while traveling. Shirts should be wrinkle-resistant, or (if you enjoy ironing like me), make sure there is an iron available at your hotel. As much of a pain as it is to unpack everything, hanging up your suits and shirts when you arrive will keep them looking nice until you need to wear them.
7. Take advantage of your employer's business travel allowances. Most employers will cover checked luggage fees. They also might reimburse you dry cleaning expenses while on business travel. Look into your employer's policy and take advantage of this! If will help ease many of the stresses of deciding what to pack and whether you have too much or not enough.
With these tips in mind, you should be well on your way to a successful business trip, Lezsquire-style.
1. Be aware of your destination. This seems like a no-brainer, but there have been several times that I (as a Californian) have failed to realize how cold other parts of the world can get at varying times of year. Does your destination have tropical rainstorms in the summer? Tornadoes in the spring? High liklihood of a blizzard? Check the weather predictions for your destination and do a little research into it's quirks. Then think of the key items you will need for this weather - coats, umbrellas, etc. Keep in mind that cold weather clothes are bulkier and will require more packing room.
2. Build your wardrobe bottom-up. And by bottom-up, I mean first determine what color of shoes you will be bringing. Shoes take up a lot of space, so if you're traveling for a week or less you should consider bringing only one pair of business shoes. Black and brown are the business traditionals (black is typically seen as more professional), so pick one of the two. (And for god's sake, don't wear those horrible bulky slip-on "business travel shoes". Having to take 2 additional seconds to untie your shoes at TSA won't kill you.) Ok, picked your shoe color? Then throw in a matching belt. Now choose a classic suit that goes with it. You get the idea.
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| Some classic black shoes like these wingtips from H by Hudson will serve you well on business travel. |
3. Wear bulkier items on the plane. Wearing bulkier items on the plane will both save you packing space and protect you from the extreme temperatures of air travel. Consider wearing bigger sweaters and other items on the plane. Wearing one of your suit jackets or blazers on the plan will better protect it from wrinkles than leaving it in the bag.
4. Versatility is key. Packing space is a pain and airline baggage charges are insane nowadays. So it's important to think of outfits that will be versatile. You'll have to come to terms with the fact that due to limited space for accessories and different wardrobe pieces in your luggage, you will probably not be the height of fashion during the duration of your business travel. Nonetheless, you can still build a basic, sharp and professional wardrobe for your trip. While I am not crazy about the exact outfits, think of the below picture as a guide. As you can see, the outfits all build off of the same scheme of a dark suit, black shoes/belt, and a couple of button-down shirts and sweaters worn in different combinations. You could technically only have one or two basic suits or blazers for a week or longer, but by mixing and matching smaller pieces you can create vastly different looks. Bring a couple of different colored button-downs, then try layering a vest or sweater in different combinations on different days. On more casual days, you can ditch the suit jacket and go with some slacks and a sweater or one of your more casual button-downs.
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| Cool accessories can bring a spark to an otherwise plain business travel wardrobe. |
6. Consider your clothing's comfort, too. Suits should be kept in a garment bag and packed properly while traveling. Shirts should be wrinkle-resistant, or (if you enjoy ironing like me), make sure there is an iron available at your hotel. As much of a pain as it is to unpack everything, hanging up your suits and shirts when you arrive will keep them looking nice until you need to wear them.
7. Take advantage of your employer's business travel allowances. Most employers will cover checked luggage fees. They also might reimburse you dry cleaning expenses while on business travel. Look into your employer's policy and take advantage of this! If will help ease many of the stresses of deciding what to pack and whether you have too much or not enough.
With these tips in mind, you should be well on your way to a successful business trip, Lezsquire-style.
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Saturday, March 31, 2012
Pic of the Day: Vest, Hat, and Photography
Today's Pic of the Day is a simple outfit. A plain white button-up shirt, a black hat, and a black pinstriped vest.
But it comes together in an amazing way. Most of the time, looking stylish is more about attitude and confidence than the actual articles of clothing you are wearing. This picture embodies that notion. The look, the stance, the way she is handling the camera - these all convey that the wearer is a serious professional intent on executing her art. The gaze is at once confrontational and alluring.
Just the way we like it.
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But it comes together in an amazing way. Most of the time, looking stylish is more about attitude and confidence than the actual articles of clothing you are wearing. This picture embodies that notion. The look, the stance, the way she is handling the camera - these all convey that the wearer is a serious professional intent on executing her art. The gaze is at once confrontational and alluring.
Just the way we like it.
Friday, March 30, 2012
Lezsquire in... Ohio?
You read that right. This California lawyer will be heading to Ohio later this weekend for an extended business trip. When I was first informed of this several weeks ago, my first instinct was to do anything possible to get out of it. Don't get me wrong - though I live in LA, I wouldn't consider myself a big-city person. I lived a small-town life for several years and was quite fond of it. But although I am a worldly and well-traveled Lezsquire, I have no experience in what I will endearingly call "Middle America". Further, outside of work-related matters, I know next to nothing about Ohio. Google tells me Ohio a red state whose motto is "with God, all things
are possible". Christ. Separation of church and state, much?
I had a series of conversations with confidants that went something like this:
Me: "I could do a few days or even a week, but a whole month is going to be horrible. No one will like me and there will be nothing to do and when I'm not working I'll be sitting in my hotel room crying."
Friend: "Why would you think that? You're friendly and likable and attractive. I'm sure they will love you."
Me: "I'm from California, I'm liberal, I'm a professional woman, I'm a feminist, and I'm gay. Dealing with prejudice and getting acceptance in California is hard enough sometimes! I'm pretty sure people like me get hate crime-d or lynched out in Middle America!!"
In short, I was afraid that people would judge me negatively based on stereotypes before they got to know me. Then I realized that was exactly what I was doing to Ohio. Acting out of fear before I gave it a fair chance.
I also learned that this was a non-negotiable assignment, and that I would get giant piles of travel pay.
So, Ohio, I am going to try to get to know you. To begin, a positive impression. Below is what I imagine to be an "Ohioan lesbian outfit".
Definitely not your typical big city business attire, but still dapper. Still Lezsquire-friendly. Is this what people actually look like in Ohio? I don't know, but I'm going to find out.
So, if there are any Lezsquire readers out in Ohio or the surrounding areas, drop me a line. Show me how great the rest of our country can be. (Or at least, show me where the gays hang out.)
I had a series of conversations with confidants that went something like this:
Me: "I could do a few days or even a week, but a whole month is going to be horrible. No one will like me and there will be nothing to do and when I'm not working I'll be sitting in my hotel room crying."
Friend: "Why would you think that? You're friendly and likable and attractive. I'm sure they will love you."
Me: "I'm from California, I'm liberal, I'm a professional woman, I'm a feminist, and I'm gay. Dealing with prejudice and getting acceptance in California is hard enough sometimes! I'm pretty sure people like me get hate crime-d or lynched out in Middle America!!"
In short, I was afraid that people would judge me negatively based on stereotypes before they got to know me. Then I realized that was exactly what I was doing to Ohio. Acting out of fear before I gave it a fair chance.
I also learned that this was a non-negotiable assignment, and that I would get giant piles of travel pay.
So, Ohio, I am going to try to get to know you. To begin, a positive impression. Below is what I imagine to be an "Ohioan lesbian outfit".
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So, if there are any Lezsquire readers out in Ohio or the surrounding areas, drop me a line. Show me how great the rest of our country can be. (Or at least, show me where the gays hang out.)
Thursday, March 29, 2012
Pick of the Day: The Popover Oxford
When you're a professional with a masculine sense of style, the button-down oxford shirt is likely to be ubiquitous in your life. It's a style staple that is worn dressed up with a suit and tie, dressed down on weekends, and during many occasions in between. Sometimes it's fun to switch it up a little - a spread collar here, french cuffs there. Today's Pick of the Day is a spring-inspired playful twist on your classic button-down: the popover oxford.
The popover oxford is essentially an oxford shirt with only 2-3 buttons, so that you pull it over your head like a polo shirt to put it on. While this is definitely a more casual take on your traditional oxford, I think it could also be worn at work, if done right.
The popover looks classy yet fun on the weekends and off the clock. At work, wear it with a sweater or vest and no one will be the wiser until the weather warms up. If you're feeling daring, try pairing it with a classic blazer and see if the boss bats an eye.
The thing to keep in mind with a popover shit is to keep the cut slim - otherwise it runs the risk of looking like a nightshirt. GANT (featured above) has some pretty sweet popover shirts in both the "men's" and "women's" sections (the look is androgynous, so wear whichever fits you best). Ann Mashburn also has a great collection of popover shirts. But you'll see these popping up occasionally at J. Crew, Brooks Brothers, and other places as well. So keep an eye out and consider adding a playful popover to your spring Lezsquire wardrobe.
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The popover oxford is essentially an oxford shirt with only 2-3 buttons, so that you pull it over your head like a polo shirt to put it on. While this is definitely a more casual take on your traditional oxford, I think it could also be worn at work, if done right.
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| Pink Pullover Shirt by GANT |
The popover looks classy yet fun on the weekends and off the clock. At work, wear it with a sweater or vest and no one will be the wiser until the weather warms up. If you're feeling daring, try pairing it with a classic blazer and see if the boss bats an eye.
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| New Haven Oxford Pullover by GANT |
Tuesday, March 27, 2012
Pic of the Day: Studious Lesbian 2.0
Here is another take on the "studious lesbian" look featured on Lezsquire last Thursday. I really love the jacket here (from Katherine Hooker). It's casual yet well-structured - perfect for a day of informal research or hitting the books.
I think this is an overall androgynous look that could go in either a masculine or feminine direction. The jacket is made for women and definitely tailored to a woman's body, but because of the clean lines and sharp structure, it gives a crisp look that definitely treads into the masculine end of the style spectrum. With the brass buttons and stand-up collar, it is reminiscent of a more sophisticated take on the baseball jacket.
Style this with a button-down and a nice pair of slacks and belt, and you'll be an academic all-star in no time.
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Style this with a button-down and a nice pair of slacks and belt, and you'll be an academic all-star in no time.
Saturday, March 24, 2012
Pick of the Day: Harness Belt by Sole Survivor Leather
I'm about to run off to suffer through a boring yet potentially comically ironic straight-people-oriented event (more on that later, perhaps) but before I go I wanted to share this find from Sole Survivor Leather.
The description calls this a "harness" belt with a "long tongue". Ladies! Need I say more?
Well how about this: every Lezsquire should own at least two belts: one brown and one black. Lezsquire warns against those two-sided "flip belts" due to the shoddy construction of most of them (they are usually fused leather and the sides separate after regular usage), but they are permissible if you absolutely must and are on a tight budget.
Also, belts are somewhere that a young professional can have some fun. It's hard to tell because I haven't seen this in person, but I would probably try to pull this off at the office. The belt looks professional but with a twist because of the "tongue" (heh, heh) on the buckle. So while I probably wouldn't wear this to a court appearance, it has the potential to get some compliments on weekends, parties, or even less formal days at work. Plus it's made in the USA. Can't beat that for the price.
So when that hottie litigator from your local LGBT bar association asks about it, don't be afraid to explain how the tongue and harness work on this thing. ;-)
The description calls this a "harness" belt with a "long tongue". Ladies! Need I say more?
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| 1 1/4 inch Harness Belt Style No. 915 by Sole Survivor Leather. |
Also, belts are somewhere that a young professional can have some fun. It's hard to tell because I haven't seen this in person, but I would probably try to pull this off at the office. The belt looks professional but with a twist because of the "tongue" (heh, heh) on the buckle. So while I probably wouldn't wear this to a court appearance, it has the potential to get some compliments on weekends, parties, or even less formal days at work. Plus it's made in the USA. Can't beat that for the price.
So when that hottie litigator from your local LGBT bar association asks about it, don't be afraid to explain how the tongue and harness work on this thing. ;-)
Thursday, March 22, 2012
Pic of the Day: Studious Lesbian
Today's Pic of the Day reminds me of my days spent in the carrels of the law library.
This look just may be the pinnacle of masculine fashion for the lesbian law or graduate student. It is simultaneously professional and casual. Jeans are totally acceptable for day-to-day wear if you're still a student. Pro tip: if you are going to wear a tie, tuck in your damn shirt and wear a belt. Anything otherwise looks sloppy and haphazard.
I like the gingham shirt with the plaid tie. There is some old rule of fashion that states you are not supposed to mix and match patterns. This rule has been superseded. You should feel free to experiment with mixing and matching different kinds of patterns and textures, and as you can see here, great results are achievable. The trick is to go for complimentary colors and differing scale of patterns.
I'm also a fan of the layering of the vest and sweater. Libraries, classrooms, and offices can get cold. It is totally acceptable (and advisable) to keep a tasteful sweater handy if you find yourself in such a situation.
Nail a look like this at your next study group with the cutie from Civ Pro and you will give new meaning to the term "hornbook".
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| (Source) |
I like the gingham shirt with the plaid tie. There is some old rule of fashion that states you are not supposed to mix and match patterns. This rule has been superseded. You should feel free to experiment with mixing and matching different kinds of patterns and textures, and as you can see here, great results are achievable. The trick is to go for complimentary colors and differing scale of patterns.
I'm also a fan of the layering of the vest and sweater. Libraries, classrooms, and offices can get cold. It is totally acceptable (and advisable) to keep a tasteful sweater handy if you find yourself in such a situation.
Nail a look like this at your next study group with the cutie from Civ Pro and you will give new meaning to the term "hornbook".
Asked & Answered: Shopping in the Men's Section
Welcome to Asked & Answered, a new feature where the questions you ask are answered by Lezsquire. Reader Mallory recently wrote in asking:
“I am so glad to have stumbled across this blog; it's been so helpful already. I'm a 2L and am having trouble figuring out professional dress. I love those Levi's you have on here. I would like to buy some, but the thought of shopping in the men's sections intimidates me. Have you ever thought about writing a "how to" post on shopping in the men's section?”
Mallory, I am happy to help in any way I can. Believe it or not, I also did not start shopping in the men’s section until late 1L/ early 2L year. Don't get me wrong, I have always loved men's fashion. But until that point I had allotted all of my shopping time in a desperate and more often than not futile attempt at finding "masculine" clothing in the women's section. Why? Growing up I had few if any queer friends for guidance, and coming from the highly conservative environment I grew up in, it just wasn't something that was done. When it finally clicked with me that shopping in the men's section was an option, I experienced a personal style Renaissance. A whole new world of fashion opportunity had opened up to me.
With that in mind, I present Lezsquire's guide for to shopping in the men's section for lesbian women (& co).
1. Bring a friend. There are some lesbians out there who have always shopped in the men's department and have no problem marching in there with all the dudes and picking out what they like. For the rest of us, shopping in the men's section really means overcoming a social taboo. A friend will vastly lessen your anxiety about venturing into this uncharted territory. Particularly useful here are LGBTQ friends or a significant other. They will be sensitive to your needs and, more likely than not, render fabulous style advice.
2. Know your size, roughly. You shouldn’t be afraid to ask for help if
you need it, but it’s better to go in knowing what you are looking for. Knowing
your measurements beforehand will give you a good place to start. If you're only used to shopping in the women's section, men's sizing can be confusing at first. You can find shoe, pant, shirt, and other conversion charts online. You might even want to make a "cheat sheet" and bring it with you, so you can jump right into the sizes that are likely to fit and adjust up or down accordingly.
4. Don't settle for the "wrong" fit. One common mistake of women buying men's clothing is that they will settle for clothing that they are virtually swimming in either because they think it is the closest approximation to their "women's" size, or it is the smallest size available in the men's section. My rule is to keep going a size down until I can no longer get the clothes to fit. Then I go one size up from that. This results in clothing that is well-fitted and tailored looking. If the smallest men's size is still too big, my advice is to pass on it. You may need to look in the boy's department if that is the case, and there is no shame in that. Also keep in mind that stores targeted at younger men tend to have slim/ tailored fit clothing, which is more likely to flatter and fit your body than the alternatives.
3. Pick the right stores. Let's face it. Some stores will be more lesbian-friendly than others. This will be a judgment call on your part. If you're new to shopping for men's clothing and anxious about it, stores that have collections of both men's and women's clothing in the same general area are a good place to start (and will be less like walking into a cave of leering men). Places like H&M, American Apparel, J.Crew, and some department stores come to mind. As you gain experience and familiarity with men's clothing shopping, you will be more comfortable with the prospect of venturing into "men's only" clothing stores if you so choose. Also, keep your objective in mind. Are you looking for shoes, a suit, or casual clothes? Thinking about these things beforehand will help direct your plan of attack for where to shop.
4. Shop online. Once you gain some familiarity with men's clothing sizing, how items of different sizes fit you, and the styles that look good on you, you can take your knowledge to the online marketplace. Often I will find something I like in a store but they just won't have the right size or color that I am looking for. Rather than giving up, make a note and see if the item you desire is available online. The other great thing about the internet is that you will have a vast variety of men's styles that you couldn't find at your average trip to the mall at your fingertips.
5. Shop thrift and bargain stores. The majority of my most prized pieces of attire are vintage or thrifted. Thrift stores generally feature both men's and women's clothing, often times mixed in together. At its best, this breaks down perceived gender barriers and allows you to assess a piece for it's intrinsic worth rather than its socially constructed gender value. Ok, maybe I am getting a little too philosophical here. Anyway, keep in mind that thrifting is more of a hobby or "process" than a shopping trip. You can't go in looking for any particular item because you are unlikely to find it. But when you least expect it, you might just find that perfect vest or vintage leather jacket that you never knew you needed, and it's all worth it.
6. Find a good tailor. I am reluctant to recommend this because I have not yet in my life found a "good" tailor and I thus question whether this is a worthy investment. Your first ditch effort should be to get clothes that fit you well from the get-go. But, this can be difficult with men's clothes that were not made with lesbian bodies in mind. So if you have the fortune of knowing a good tailor, take note that a nip and tuck in the right places can take your look from passable to outstanding.
So, Mallory, I hope that his article will be of use to you in your future Lezsquire shopping endeavors. If something comes up that wasn't addressed here, you know where to find me. My style advice is free and plentiful.
Do you have a question you would like Lezsquire to answer? Contact me to have your question Asked & Answered!
“I am so glad to have stumbled across this blog; it's been so helpful already. I'm a 2L and am having trouble figuring out professional dress. I love those Levi's you have on here. I would like to buy some, but the thought of shopping in the men's sections intimidates me. Have you ever thought about writing a "how to" post on shopping in the men's section?”
Mallory, I am happy to help in any way I can. Believe it or not, I also did not start shopping in the men’s section until late 1L/ early 2L year. Don't get me wrong, I have always loved men's fashion. But until that point I had allotted all of my shopping time in a desperate and more often than not futile attempt at finding "masculine" clothing in the women's section. Why? Growing up I had few if any queer friends for guidance, and coming from the highly conservative environment I grew up in, it just wasn't something that was done. When it finally clicked with me that shopping in the men's section was an option, I experienced a personal style Renaissance. A whole new world of fashion opportunity had opened up to me.
With that in mind, I present Lezsquire's guide for to shopping in the men's section for lesbian women (& co).
1. Bring a friend. There are some lesbians out there who have always shopped in the men's department and have no problem marching in there with all the dudes and picking out what they like. For the rest of us, shopping in the men's section really means overcoming a social taboo. A friend will vastly lessen your anxiety about venturing into this uncharted territory. Particularly useful here are LGBTQ friends or a significant other. They will be sensitive to your needs and, more likely than not, render fabulous style advice.
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| Turn to your LGBTQ friends for shopping support. (Source) |
4. Don't settle for the "wrong" fit. One common mistake of women buying men's clothing is that they will settle for clothing that they are virtually swimming in either because they think it is the closest approximation to their "women's" size, or it is the smallest size available in the men's section. My rule is to keep going a size down until I can no longer get the clothes to fit. Then I go one size up from that. This results in clothing that is well-fitted and tailored looking. If the smallest men's size is still too big, my advice is to pass on it. You may need to look in the boy's department if that is the case, and there is no shame in that. Also keep in mind that stores targeted at younger men tend to have slim/ tailored fit clothing, which is more likely to flatter and fit your body than the alternatives.
3. Pick the right stores. Let's face it. Some stores will be more lesbian-friendly than others. This will be a judgment call on your part. If you're new to shopping for men's clothing and anxious about it, stores that have collections of both men's and women's clothing in the same general area are a good place to start (and will be less like walking into a cave of leering men). Places like H&M, American Apparel, J.Crew, and some department stores come to mind. As you gain experience and familiarity with men's clothing shopping, you will be more comfortable with the prospect of venturing into "men's only" clothing stores if you so choose. Also, keep your objective in mind. Are you looking for shoes, a suit, or casual clothes? Thinking about these things beforehand will help direct your plan of attack for where to shop.
4. Shop online. Once you gain some familiarity with men's clothing sizing, how items of different sizes fit you, and the styles that look good on you, you can take your knowledge to the online marketplace. Often I will find something I like in a store but they just won't have the right size or color that I am looking for. Rather than giving up, make a note and see if the item you desire is available online. The other great thing about the internet is that you will have a vast variety of men's styles that you couldn't find at your average trip to the mall at your fingertips.
5. Shop thrift and bargain stores. The majority of my most prized pieces of attire are vintage or thrifted. Thrift stores generally feature both men's and women's clothing, often times mixed in together. At its best, this breaks down perceived gender barriers and allows you to assess a piece for it's intrinsic worth rather than its socially constructed gender value. Ok, maybe I am getting a little too philosophical here. Anyway, keep in mind that thrifting is more of a hobby or "process" than a shopping trip. You can't go in looking for any particular item because you are unlikely to find it. But when you least expect it, you might just find that perfect vest or vintage leather jacket that you never knew you needed, and it's all worth it.
6. Find a good tailor. I am reluctant to recommend this because I have not yet in my life found a "good" tailor and I thus question whether this is a worthy investment. Your first ditch effort should be to get clothes that fit you well from the get-go. But, this can be difficult with men's clothes that were not made with lesbian bodies in mind. So if you have the fortune of knowing a good tailor, take note that a nip and tuck in the right places can take your look from passable to outstanding.
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| Communication helps your tailor achieve the look you want, so be articulate. |
Do you have a question you would like Lezsquire to answer? Contact me to have your question Asked & Answered!
Wednesday, March 21, 2012
Pic of the Day: Suit, Bowtie, and Glasses
Lezsquire doesn't really do bowties (except with a formal tux). Don't get me wrong, it's just a personal preference. If you are a Lezsqurire with a thing for bowties, more power to you. However, if I were to look into a mirror whilst wearing a bowtie, this Pic of the Day is about what I would see.
Ok... I am more handsome (better ears). Still, this is pretty close without revealing my secret identity.
Things to note about this pic:
Ok... I am more handsome (better ears). Still, this is pretty close without revealing my secret identity.
Things to note about this pic:
- Check out "my" sexy hairstyle. Roguish yet professional (still too short to approximate MJ's luxurious locks).
- Glasses! I wear contacts most of the time, but glasses are good once a week or so to give the eyes a break. Plus, sometimes an outfit just looks better in glasses. This look in particular is especially litagator-ish. My glasses are virtually identical to those featured above. Note: fashion-forward yet still professional.
- That silk pocket square. Sigh. One can never have enough of these beautiful things.
Tuesday, March 20, 2012
Suits Me: Milla Jovovich
Lesbian hair is a wonderful thing. We look hella sexy doing all kinds of fun things that our straight counterparts just can't quite pull off. Ok, well... Milla Jovovich might not technically be a lesbian, but... well, just look!
The hair, the suit, the penetrating gaze, the pouty lips.... you're sending off all the signals, MJ!
Right now my hair has been going through a succession of "Iceman from Top Gun -> James Dean -> Twilight vampire" phases (only partially joking here). It's been shortish for a while, and I'm thinking I'll let it grow a little shaggier like Milla's in the picture above. I only wish that my hair was able to curl/ wave like hers is here. Lezsquire thinks curly hair is THE BEST. While I am fortunate to have an incredibly thick, luxurious mane, it has a mind of its own and stubbornly resists all such attempts. Or to stay styled in any way through a whole day, for that matter (while this gives me a roguish, handsome look, it's appropriateness is questionable for a late meeting with the boss or court appointment).
How do you wear your lesbian hair?
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| Swoon. |
Right now my hair has been going through a succession of "Iceman from Top Gun -> James Dean -> Twilight vampire" phases (only partially joking here). It's been shortish for a while, and I'm thinking I'll let it grow a little shaggier like Milla's in the picture above. I only wish that my hair was able to curl/ wave like hers is here. Lezsquire thinks curly hair is THE BEST. While I am fortunate to have an incredibly thick, luxurious mane, it has a mind of its own and stubbornly resists all such attempts. Or to stay styled in any way through a whole day, for that matter (while this gives me a roguish, handsome look, it's appropriateness is questionable for a late meeting with the boss or court appointment).
How do you wear your lesbian hair?
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